Making Love Last

How Do You Make Love Last Forever?

Everyone who has been in a relationship for a long time knows it can get stale. We learn and grow as people, and sometimes during those changes, we grow apart. The fact of life is, we are constantly changing and evolving. So how do we make love last in a society where everything is disposable.

I have been married for almost 13 years, and I have no idea what the answer to that question is. We have grown, changed jobs, had kids, lost loved ones, and everything that life threw at us, we had to deal with together.

There is no simple answer. I think to a point, most long terms relationships end because you fall out of love. You loved a previous person, and that person no longer exists. The hope is that if you evolve that you continue to fall in love with that person, over and over. I think.

Yes, everything you read, therapist, how-to books, and more all point you to communication. You have to be able to communicate with the person you are sharing your life with.

Not just communicating about emotions but communicating as your wants and needs change. If you once loved going out to eat on the weekends and now want to order in, just tell them.

At the end of the day, you are still two different people with two different sets of needs. You won’t always agree. Compromise doesn't mean you have to live outside of your comfort zone. Just take it slow, look into situations as objectively as you can, and at times compromise on the small stuff.

Never let anyone take advantage or control you, instead communicate and look at each situation from their point of view. The simple things are easy, if you don’t want Chinese food for dinner and she does, get take out and eat together from different places. Although not ever decision will be that easy, sometimes learning to compromise on the little things prepares you for the big things.

You are both going to have bad days. There will be times that little things drive you crazy. Instead of arguing or nagging, always think to yourself ‘is this worth it?

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